This morning #1, #2, and I went to breakfast. Holidays are treated like weekends in our house in that Mother sleeps in while the three of us scurry off for breakfast. We were drawing little pictures on napkins when #2 asked:
#2: Is today the last day of summer?
Me: Yes, it is. Tomorrow you go back to school.
#2: So is this the last breakfast of summer?
Me: Yep. Sorry.
#2: That makes me sad.
#1: But you’ll get to see all your friends.
#2: I don’t want to see them. I want to see daddy. Humpf.
Amongst all the quotidian “demands” it’s easy to forget how important time and attention are. Time spent together—not just near each other while playing with an iPad or iPhone but really spent together—is never squandered. Whatever happens to them in the future, wherever life takes them, they will have these memories, as will I. Nobody can take them away from us.
As summer is winding down this weekend, I thought #1 and #2 and I could make a beanbag toss game (apparently also known by the vaguely off putting name, Cornhole). I recall playing this game as a child, particularly at family gatherings and thought we would have fun building one and then playing with it.
Any Internet search returns numerous instructions, but it’s not “rocket science:”
rectangular shaped plywood for the top (we cut a 4×4 sheet in half);
1×4 or 2×4 wood for the frame and legs;
screws and bolts;
draw two circles on the plywood, one larger than the other, and cut them out;
cut 1×4 for the frame;
screw frame together and then plywood to frame;
cut 1×4 for the legs (cut one end at the appropriate angle to sit level, if you want);
drill holes for bolts to attach legs;
Part of the fun was helping them figure out how to make these. They did the measuring and drew the lines for me to cut. I cut the wood and let #1 and #2 do most of the work driving screws, tightening bolts, and painting.
Once assembled, we had to paint them. #1and #2 each got to paint the one they had put together. We rummaged around and found a few different colors of spray paint and some black to number them.
While ours are not as polished as those you can buy at the local sporting goods store or from L. L. Bean, our beanbag toss game was infinitely more fun to make. After all, the point wasn’t to make the nicest beanbag toss game. The point was to spend time together. Both #1 and #2 had the chance to figure out how to make something. We got to spend an hour or so working on it together in the afternoon. We then spent an hour tossing beanbags, laughing, and just having fun. And now we have it to play whenever we have just a few minutes to spare.
It’s times like these that I hope they’ll remember, the times when all that matters is spending time together.